• Be More Positive,  Be More Resilient,  Better Stress Management

    Will You Be Shaped or Broken?

    “You can be shaped, or you can be broken. There is not much in between. Try to learn. Be coachable. Try to learn from everybody, especially those who fail.” David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest. I love this quote. We all experience bad stuff in our lives, whether bad experiences that are our own doing, or bad experiences that are someone else’s fault. Bad things just happen, sometimes – flukes, illness, death. Bad things are part of life. The sooner we accept that, the better. We need to drop the thought that “It’s not fair”. Life isn’t fair. It was never meant to be fair. No one ever promised you fair, did…

  • Be More Mindful,  Better Communication

    Judgement Days

    We are more judgemental now than ever before. Why do we see binary – black or white – and not shades of difference? Why are we so intent on putting people into boxes and react accordingly? The main culprit is social media. We open our Facebook feed (or Twitter, Instagram, whatever social media we use). And we’re presented with a scrollable list of posts, articles, photos, polls, questions, and links. Social media is so fast that our brain has to make instant decisions. Neuroscience shows that our brains get addicted by the new and the novel, keeping us scrolling through, hooked into seeing the next, and the next. On every single…

  • Be More Grateful,  Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Paying Car Insurance

    Doesn’t sound that amazing, does it, having to pay car insurance? The reminder arrives, and you trawl through the comparison sites to find a better deal, because you just know the renewal is always a rip off. I wasted an hour of my time doing just that the other evening. And time is precious. My time is precious, and so is yours. Ain’t nobody got time for that! But then I thought….. Turn it on it’s head: why do I have to pay for car insurance? Because I am fortunate enough to have a car. A car that sits outside my house so anytime day or night I can get in…

  • Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Cultivate A Sense of Wonder

    Do you enjoy watching magicians, and being astounded when they make something appear or disappear, without you having a clue of how they do it? It’s great to have that feeling of puzzlement and wonder. It delights us and brings us enjoyment as we try to work out just how they did it. Go to YouTube now and find a magician to watch. It may be your favourite magician or one you’ve never seen before. Watch the performance and enjoy the feeling of wonder and delight that develops. Now pick up an object near to you. Any object. Your phone, a mouse, a coaster, a book. Look at that with a…

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    Send An Email Every Friday Afternoon To Yourself

    I had an idea suggested to me a few months ago, and have been testing it every week. The idea is that on a Friday afternoon (or whatever your last day at work for the week is), you send an email to yourself, with a quick run down of what you’ve achieved that week. You don’t have to get bogged down in detail: the aim isn’t to write everything down, but to write down your wins, what you’ve learned, and any new ideas that you thought of or came across that may help you in the future. It’s an interesting process to go through: making you consider what you’ve done well,…

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    Be More Positive,  Better Communication

    Our Greatest Addiction

    What is our greatest addiction? Asking this question gets you a variety of answers. Many people say coffee, or sugar, or drugs. Alcohol, TV or social media. And of course they can all be damaging addictions. But one addiction that flies under most people’s radars, and one of the most damaging for our mental health, is a having a negative perspective in life. Talking about our problems all the time. Let’s be honest, we all do it. It often seems it’s easier to focus on the negative and what is or has gone wrong, than to talk about the things that are right in our lives. Why do we do it?…

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    Be More Grateful,  Be More Mindful,  Be More Positive

    Three Things

    We‌ ‌take‌ ‌so‌ ‌many‌ ‌things‌ ‌for‌ ‌granted‌ ‌in‌ ‌our‌ ‌lives.‌  ‌A‌ ‌good‌ ‌way‌ ‌to‌ ‌remind‌ ‌ourselves‌ ‌of‌ ‌how‌ ‌fortunate‌ ‌we‌ ‌are‌ ‌is‌ ‌to‌ ‌get‌ ‌into‌ ‌the‌ ‌habit‌ ‌of‌ ‌thinking‌ ‌about‌ ‌three‌ ‌things‌ ‌–‌ ‌just‌ ‌three‌ ‌things‌ ‌–‌ ‌that‌ ‌we‌ ‌are‌ ‌grateful‌ ‌for‌ ‌today,‌ ‌and‌ ‌are‌ ‌amazing‌ ‌and‌ ‌incredible‌ ‌in‌ ‌their‌ ‌own‌ ‌right.‌ ‌ The‌ ‌fact‌ ‌that‌ ‌we‌ ‌can‌ ‌see,‌ ‌for‌ ‌example.‌ ‌Or‌ ‌hear,‌ ‌or‌ ‌walk,‌ ‌or‌ ‌talk. The‌ ‌fact‌ ‌that‌ ‌we‌ ‌have‌ ‌teeth‌ ‌to‌ ‌eat‌ ‌food,‌ ‌a‌ ‌chair‌ ‌to‌ ‌sit‌ ‌in,‌ ‌a‌ ‌cup‌ ‌of‌ ‌coffee,‌ ‌a‌ ‌book‌ ‌to‌ ‌read,‌ ‌a‌ ‌friend,‌ ‌a‌ ‌job,‌ ‌money,‌ ‌food‌ ‌to‌ ‌eat,‌ ‌water‌ ‌to‌ ‌drink,‌ ‌a‌ ‌computer,‌ ‌a‌ ‌fridge,‌ ‌a‌ ‌fork‌ ‌to‌ ‌eat‌ ‌with.‌ ‌Electric‌ ‌light,‌ ‌heating,‌ ‌fresh‌ ‌water‌ ‌in‌ ‌our‌…