What is our greatest addiction? Asking this question gets you a variety of answers. Many people say coffee, or sugar, or drugs. Alcohol, TV or social media. And of course they can all be damaging addictions.
But one addiction that flies under most people’s radars, and one of the most damaging for our mental health, is a having a negative perspective in life. Talking about our problems all the time.
Let’s be honest, we all do it. It often seems it’s easier to focus on the negative and what is or has gone wrong, than to talk about the things that are right in our lives.
Why do we do it? Because it feels good to have a moan, and to get some sympathetic responses from others before they pile in with their tales of woe. Getting it off your chest and sharing it with other appears to relieve or share the burden somehow.
Everyone does the same and it can seem weird to be talking about positive stuff when everyone is so focussed on discussing the negative.
But maybe, in our little group of friends, family and work colleagues we can “Be the change we wish to see in the world”. As Ghandi said. (Or didn’t*- see below for the full quote from Ghandi.)
Maybe, just maybe, if we talk about the good things that are happening in our life, others will join in.
Maybe, just maybe, if we talk about the great things we have, others will join in.
Maybe, just maybe, if we talk about the wonderful things that our family, friends or group has done for us, others will join in.
It’s worth a try, don’t you think? Let’s take this small opportunity to be a leader, not a follower, and to create a life filled with joys rather than sorrow, anger and bitterness.
Let me know how you get on!
*Ghandi is often credited for saying “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. But this quote is a shortened and edited version of what he actually said, which was:
“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.”~ Mahatma Gandhi