A very wise rabbit (yes, a rabbit: Thumper in the film Bambi) once said
If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.
To be fair he wasn’t that wise because he’s just an animated cartoon rabbit and his grammar certainly wasn’t up to much, but his intent was solid.
We all talk or gossip about other people. It’s human nature. But it can cause issues of which we’re often not aware.
So how about setting ourselves a new, higher standard –
- That we won’t gossip, or repeat gossip;
- We won’t say anything that reduces someone else and their chance of being whatever they want to be. So you might know that a person tells lies, but if everyone conspires to create an environment where that person can only be someone that lies, and where that person’s lying becomes their defining characteristic, then you have contaminated their opportunity to change.
It’s hard to hold back when others are gossiping. It’s hard not to get sucked in. But be the better person: don’t join in but instead change the subject, or if you can, walk away.
Choose to be better.