• Be More Grateful,  Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Paying Car Insurance

    Doesn’t sound that amazing, does it, having to pay car insurance? The reminder arrives, and you trawl through the comparison sites to find a better deal, because you just know the renewal is always a rip off. I wasted an hour of my time doing just that the other evening. And time is precious. My time is precious, and so is yours. Ain’t nobody got time for that! But then I thought….. Turn it on it’s head: why do I have to pay for car insurance? Because I am fortunate enough to have a car. A car that sits outside my house so anytime day or night I can get in…

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    Be More Positive,  Better Communication

    Our Greatest Addiction

    What is our greatest addiction? Asking this question gets you a variety of answers. Many people say coffee, or sugar, or drugs. Alcohol, TV or social media. And of course they can all be damaging addictions. But one addiction that flies under most people’s radars, and one of the most damaging for our mental health, is a having a negative perspective in life. Talking about our problems all the time. Let’s be honest, we all do it. It often seems it’s easier to focus on the negative and what is or has gone wrong, than to talk about the things that are right in our lives. Why do we do it?…

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    Be More Grateful,  Be More Mindful,  Be More Positive

    Three Things

    We‌ ‌take‌ ‌so‌ ‌many‌ ‌things‌ ‌for‌ ‌granted‌ ‌in‌ ‌our‌ ‌lives.‌  ‌A‌ ‌good‌ ‌way‌ ‌to‌ ‌remind‌ ‌ourselves‌ ‌of‌ ‌how‌ ‌fortunate‌ ‌we‌ ‌are‌ ‌is‌ ‌to‌ ‌get‌ ‌into‌ ‌the‌ ‌habit‌ ‌of‌ ‌thinking‌ ‌about‌ ‌three‌ ‌things‌ ‌–‌ ‌just‌ ‌three‌ ‌things‌ ‌–‌ ‌that‌ ‌we‌ ‌are‌ ‌grateful‌ ‌for‌ ‌today,‌ ‌and‌ ‌are‌ ‌amazing‌ ‌and‌ ‌incredible‌ ‌in‌ ‌their‌ ‌own‌ ‌right.‌ ‌ The‌ ‌fact‌ ‌that‌ ‌we‌ ‌can‌ ‌see,‌ ‌for‌ ‌example.‌ ‌Or‌ ‌hear,‌ ‌or‌ ‌walk,‌ ‌or‌ ‌talk. The‌ ‌fact‌ ‌that‌ ‌we‌ ‌have‌ ‌teeth‌ ‌to‌ ‌eat‌ ‌food,‌ ‌a‌ ‌chair‌ ‌to‌ ‌sit‌ ‌in,‌ ‌a‌ ‌cup‌ ‌of‌ ‌coffee,‌ ‌a‌ ‌book‌ ‌to‌ ‌read,‌ ‌a‌ ‌friend,‌ ‌a‌ ‌job,‌ ‌money,‌ ‌food‌ ‌to‌ ‌eat,‌ ‌water‌ ‌to‌ ‌drink,‌ ‌a‌ ‌computer,‌ ‌a‌ ‌fridge,‌ ‌a‌ ‌fork‌ ‌to‌ ‌eat‌ ‌with.‌ ‌Electric‌ ‌light,‌ ‌heating,‌ ‌fresh‌ ‌water‌ ‌in‌ ‌our‌…

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    Drains and Radiators

    This is a concept I was introduced to many years ago.  The idea is that people generally fall into two camps: drains or radiators. DRAINS are the people who sap the energy out of you. They’re negative and self-absorbed. When you try to be upbeat or positive, they are quick to knock you back down and to discourage you. If you come up with an idea they’ll tell you it can’t be done. Can’t be changed. No point even trying.  They see clouds in every silver lining.  And they’ll leave you feeling tired – drained of energy and motivation. A drain has the power to bring everyone around them down. RADIATORS…

  • Be More Mindful,  Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Grand Canyon Focus

    Have you ever been to the Grand Canyon? It’s awe-inspiring: a real visual feast. And one of the things that amazed me most was how close you can go to the edge. You can stand on the edge. Dangle your toes over the edge. Lean forward and look over the edge, to see the deep and steep drop down. Scary, even if you’re not afraid of heights.But imagine the focus you have standing on that edge. The concentration on not leaning forward too much, not overbalancing, not moving your feet an inch forward. The concentration of that very moment. And that moment alone.Now imagine bringing that intense focus to something that you’re doing.…

  • Be More Positive,  Be More Resilient

    Other People’s Problems

    Are you surrounded by people who share their problems with you? I used to be. I was always offering to help others. Even if they didn’t ask outright. If they told me their problem, they needed help, right? Someone needs information? Hold on, let me google that for you. Someone needs to unburden themselves?  Here are my ears, I’m listening. Someone needs help with thinking something through? Use my brain, don’t trouble yourself.  Someone needs to know how to do something? Let me research it and I’ll tell you. Want some free advice?   Here it is, don’t pay me, it’s a pleasure to help. In some ways, I enjoyed the role. …

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    Make an Emergency Box

    If you sometimes feel low and negative in mood, having an emergency box can really help lift your spirits. What is an emergency box?An emergency box is a box that contains some of your favourite things. It can be large or small, depending on what you put into it. And what you put in is entirely up to you. The contents should be items that make you happy, that will always lift your mood, and fill you with joy. Suggestions for content: Photos of family or friends, Photos of places that you love Photos from an event that you attended Choose them carefully – choose ones that make you smile the…