• Be More Positive,  Be More Resilient

    Other People’s Problems

    Are you surrounded by people who share their problems with you? I used to be. I was always offering to help others. Even if they didn’t ask outright. If they told me their problem, they needed help, right? Someone needs information? Hold on, let me google that for you. Someone needs to unburden themselves?  Here are my ears, I’m listening. Someone needs help with thinking something through? Use my brain, don’t trouble yourself.  Someone needs to know how to do something? Let me research it and I’ll tell you. Want some free advice?   Here it is, don’t pay me, it’s a pleasure to help. In some ways, I enjoyed the role. …

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    Make an Emergency Box

    If you sometimes feel low and negative in mood, having an emergency box can really help lift your spirits. What is an emergency box?An emergency box is a box that contains some of your favourite things. It can be large or small, depending on what you put into it. And what you put in is entirely up to you. The contents should be items that make you happy, that will always lift your mood, and fill you with joy. Suggestions for content: Photos of family or friends, Photos of places that you love Photos from an event that you attended Choose them carefully – choose ones that make you smile the…

  • Be More Motivated,  Be More Resilient

    Start A Fail Journal

    I want you to start a fail journal. “WHAT? ” I hear you say. “You want me to do what? Start a journal to document my failures? But isn’t that the opposite of what positive psychologists suggest?” you continue. Well yes. But listen. We’re often encouraged to focus on the positive, and banish the negative. Or at least, let the negative play a much diminished role in our thinking. And this makes sense. As humans, what we focus on becomes more important. People whose focus is primarily on negative events often suffer from anxiety, self doubt, low self-confidence, and are afraid to try anything new or different. They generally become “stuck”…

  • Be More Grateful,  Be More Positive

    Deathbed Wisdom

    Imagine this. You’re on your deathbed. You’re soon to take your final breath. Then someone gives you a gift.  The gift is the ability to travel back in time and give advice to the present you –  advice that could potentially be life changing.   What advice would the wise but near-to-death you, who now understands what matters and what doesn’t, give to the fully-living present you? Research by Dr Marshall Goldsmith found that when people are asked that question they come up with the following answers: Have fun. Life is shorter than you think, and always shorter than you want it to be. Don’t put off having fun. Don’t save fun…

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    Jim Rohn’s Rules Of Life

    “Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.” — Jim Rohn This post is inspired by one of the greatest business philosophers in recent times: the late Jim Rohn. It contains some of his most popular sayings. “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Set your own goals. We all have goals we would like to achieve. But how many of us plan how…

  • Be More Motivated

    Follow Your Passion, They Said

    We’re always being told to find our passion and then follow it, and the money will come. Some people spend a fortune going to life coaches to discover their “life purpose”. We’re told that just having a job is not good enough. “ Don’t you want more out of life?” “What is your passion, what do you REALLY want to do?”. And thereby isolating everyone who has a job, and making them think it’s not good enough, they’re not good enough, it’s not acceptable to “just” have a job. But what’s wrong with having a job? I’m talking from personal experience here, as a person who has followed their dream, and who…

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    They Make Me So Angry….

    Do you often find yourself getting angry with others – at what they say, what they do; or at what they don’t say or don’t do? You’re not alone. If you’ve been like this for a long time,  you’re probably an expert in finding things to be angry about. You’re waiting for it. Sometimes you intentionally provoke it.  And maybe sometimes the circle turns inward and you get angry at yourself for getting so angry at others.   Have I just described you?   Well, hello there. Time for a wake up call. No-one makes you angry. No one makes you feel any emotion.  You choose to get annoyed or angry or frustrated…