• Be More Positive

    Drains and Radiators

    This is a concept I was introduced to many years ago.  The idea is that people generally fall into two camps: drains or radiators. DRAINS are the people who sap the energy out of you. They’re negative and self-absorbed. When you try to be upbeat or positive, they are quick to knock you back down and to discourage you. If you come up with an idea they’ll tell you it can’t be done. Can’t be changed. No point even trying.  They see clouds in every silver lining.  And they’ll leave you feeling tired – drained of energy and motivation. A drain has the power to bring everyone around them down. RADIATORS…

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    Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Forest Bathing part 2

    What if you don’t live near a forest or wooded area? Can you still get the benefits of forest bathing? Yes you can! If you have a park nearby or a home garden, spend a few minutes or more there every day. Get as close as you can to the plants. See them up close, looking at the shape, colour, design of their leaves and their branches. Touch them. Smell them. Hug a tree (maybe wait until there’s no one watching to do that!) Inhale near to the plants (plants give off oxygen) and exhale at the plants (plants need carbon dioxide for photosynthesis – so it’s a win-win here) No…

  • Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Forest Bathing part 1

    A walk in the woods in a great way to end a stressful day. Following a path through the trees, you hear birds calling to each other; rustling as squirrels dart from tree to tree; see sunlight peeping through the leaves at you; and as you take a deep breath you inhale the earthy green scent of trees, plants and moss. Your heartbeat slows and the busy thoughts in your head become less frantic and appear less important at this moment in time. The Japanese have a name for it. Shinrin-yoku, or forest bathing, is based on our human need to be in nature. Research has shown that our nervous systems…

  • Be More Mindful,  Everyday Amazing

    Everyday Amazing: Grand Canyon Focus

    Have you ever been to the Grand Canyon? It’s awe-inspiring: a real visual feast. And one of the things that amazed me most was how close you can go to the edge. You can stand on the edge. Dangle your toes over the edge. Lean forward and look over the edge, to see the deep and steep drop down. Scary, even if you’re not afraid of heights.But imagine the focus you have standing on that edge. The concentration on not leaning forward too much, not overbalancing, not moving your feet an inch forward. The concentration of that very moment. And that moment alone.Now imagine bringing that intense focus to something that you’re doing.…

  • Be More Positive,  Be More Resilient

    Other People’s Problems

    Are you surrounded by people who share their problems with you? I used to be. I was always offering to help others. Even if they didn’t ask outright. If they told me their problem, they needed help, right? Someone needs information? Hold on, let me google that for you. Someone needs to unburden themselves?  Here are my ears, I’m listening. Someone needs help with thinking something through? Use my brain, don’t trouble yourself.  Someone needs to know how to do something? Let me research it and I’ll tell you. Want some free advice?   Here it is, don’t pay me, it’s a pleasure to help. In some ways, I enjoyed the role. …

  • Be More Positive,  Be More....

    Make an Emergency Box

    If you sometimes feel low and negative in mood, having an emergency box can really help lift your spirits. What is an emergency box?An emergency box is a box that contains some of your favourite things. It can be large or small, depending on what you put into it. And what you put in is entirely up to you. The contents should be items that make you happy, that will always lift your mood, and fill you with joy. Suggestions for content: Photos of family or friends, Photos of places that you love Photos from an event that you attended Choose them carefully – choose ones that make you smile the…

  • Better Communication

    Put Your Foot In It

    When we’re trying to gauge someone’s interest in our conversation, we look at their faces. Are they looking at us when we’re talking? This can be a good sign. But then some people find it difficult, so their eyes wander. They may love the conversation, but they’re just not showing that with eye contact. Are they covering a yawn or giving big sighs? That can be a sign that they’re bored, but it may just be that they’re tired, and it’s nothing to do with you or what you’re talking about. Here’s another way to find out if someone is interested in what you’re saying. Look at their feet. Feet don’t…