• Be More Positive,  Be More....

    Make an Emergency Box

    If you sometimes feel low and negative in mood, having an emergency box can really help lift your spirits. What is an emergency box?An emergency box is a box that contains some of your favourite things. It can be large or small, depending on what you put into it. And what you put in is entirely up to you. The contents should be items that make you happy, that will always lift your mood, and fill you with joy. Suggestions for content: Photos of family or friends, Photos of places that you love Photos from an event that you attended Choose them carefully – choose ones that make you smile the…

  • Better Communication

    Put Your Foot In It

    When we’re trying to gauge someone’s interest in our conversation, we look at their faces. Are they looking at us when we’re talking? This can be a good sign. But then some people find it difficult, so their eyes wander. They may love the conversation, but they’re just not showing that with eye contact. Are they covering a yawn or giving big sighs? That can be a sign that they’re bored, but it may just be that they’re tired, and it’s nothing to do with you or what you’re talking about. Here’s another way to find out if someone is interested in what you’re saying. Look at their feet. Feet don’t…

  • Be More Motivated,  Be More Resilient

    Start A Fail Journal

    I want you to start a fail journal. “WHAT? ” I hear you say. “You want me to do what? Start a journal to document my failures? But isn’t that the opposite of what positive psychologists suggest?” you continue. Well yes. But listen. We’re often encouraged to focus on the positive, and banish the negative. Or at least, let the negative play a much diminished role in our thinking. And this makes sense. As humans, what we focus on becomes more important. People whose focus is primarily on negative events often suffer from anxiety, self doubt, low self-confidence, and are afraid to try anything new or different. They generally become “stuck”…

  • Be More Grateful,  Be More Positive

    Deathbed Wisdom

    Imagine this. You’re on your deathbed. You’re soon to take your final breath. Then someone gives you a gift.  The gift is the ability to travel back in time and give advice to the present you –  advice that could potentially be life changing.   What advice would the wise but near-to-death you, who now understands what matters and what doesn’t, give to the fully-living present you? Research by Dr Marshall Goldsmith found that when people are asked that question they come up with the following answers: Have fun. Life is shorter than you think, and always shorter than you want it to be. Don’t put off having fun. Don’t save fun…

  • Be More Inspired

    Jim Rohn’s Rules Of Life

    “Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.” — Jim Rohn This post is inspired by one of the greatest business philosophers in recent times: the late Jim Rohn. It contains some of his most popular sayings. “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Set your own goals. We all have goals we would like to achieve. But how many of us plan how…

  • Be More Motivated

    Follow Your Passion, They Said

    We’re always being told to find our passion and then follow it, and the money will come. Some people spend a fortune going to life coaches to discover their “life purpose”. We’re told that just having a job is not good enough. “ Don’t you want more out of life?” “What is your passion, what do you REALLY want to do?”. And thereby isolating everyone who has a job, and making them think it’s not good enough, they’re not good enough, it’s not acceptable to “just” have a job. But what’s wrong with having a job? I’m talking from personal experience here, as a person who has followed their dream, and who…

  • Better Habits

    Habit Tracking

    We all have good habits and bad habits. And we all want to increase our good habits and minimise or stop our bad ones. But how do we do that? Well, let’s be honest, no matter what you’re told, it’s not easy. Some people will tell you it takes 29 days to change a habit. Is that right? There are a lot of variables. For example, the person you are, the habit itself, how long you have been doing it, how ingrained it is, whether it is part of your lifestyle, if you do it with others, if you have had success at changing habits before, how much you want to change,…